Sexual difficulties are surprisingly common.  Psychosexual therapy (or ‘sex therapy’) uses the principles of cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) to help you address them.  ‘Cognitive’ means that I put a lot of emphasis on your thoughts and feelings, and ‘behavioural’ means that I may invite you to try some things out in the privacy of your own home if you want to.  Psychosexual therapy is not about sexual technique – although I will share a lot of sexual information with you.  It is about finding a way to experience pleasurable, joyful, satisfying sex – whatever that is to you.

Sex therapy is used to resolve common problems such as:

Discrepancy of desire.  This is particularly common in long term relationships, and is often a difference to be managed rather than a problem to be solved.

Loss of desire.  This can cause distress to both partners and make it hard to feel connected in a relationship.  Therapy seeks to create productive conversations.

Erectile difficulties.  Provided there are no underlying health problems, then psychosexual therapy can be extremely helpful, especially if there is a supportive partner.

Rapid or delayed ejaculation.  Some men have difficulty choosing when to orgasm, and psychosexual therapy can be an effective tool to address these difficulties.

Orgasmic difficulties.  Sex therapy is an opportunity to learn about your own body, how to take pleasure, and how to express yourself sexually.  

Penetration difficulties (vaginismus and/or provoked vestibulodynia).  Many women find penetration with a penis or finger either painful or impossible.  Psychosexual therapy helps you understand possible underlying causes and treatment options.

Impact of illness or acquired disability.  Psychosexual therapy offers a way to learn how to adapt the way you make love and can give you new ways to express yourself sexually.  

Our first session is an opportunity for you to meet me and see how you feel about working with me, and for me to find out whether I think sex therapy could be helpful for you.  If you are in a relationship, it is usually preferable to see you together.  

An important part of my job is helping you to feel relaxed and comfortable talking about sex and intimacy.

I am a kink-aware psychosexual therapist.